Ouch!
I remember the first time I got hardcore rejected by a boy.
5th grade. Co-ed summer dance.
Peachtree City, Georgia.
Ben didn’t want to dance with me.
He wanted to dance with Breanne.
I didn’t take it well. I was sobbing, whining… why did they always want girls like Breanne?
She was a cheerleader, she had white-hot blonde hair and super short jean-shorts.
As far as I knew, Breanne had never said or done anything remotely controversial in her entire life.
I didn’t understand why no wanted to dance with me just because I was in advanced algebra and won the writing contest with weirdly creative essays.
I thought that was pretty sexy, but Ben didn’t seem to care.
Fast forward ten years and I’d deeply internalized the belief system that you could be powerful and smart or you could be sexy and desireable.
I was still operating on what I’d learned from a 10-year old boy, not on what the men around me actually wanted.
(For all I know, that same belief system might have haunted and blocked Breanne in the opposite, but still limiting way…)
The wild thing is, the world is full of men who only want a powerful, intelligent woman who is sensual and sexy as well…and they are the best kind of men to be with.
But, many of them don’t know how to deal with us and it’s possible to drive them away.
It takes a special kind of skill and grace to be powerful, intimidating and super sexy at the same time.
Find out how in todays blog below.
And let me know in the comments below…which one of these skills are you going to use this week to bring out the best in the men around you.