I will always remember my first pussy massage.
I’d been experiencing pain during sex for almost three years straight.
I’d been to gynecologists and sex therapists…
And no one could help me.
So when a friend who had been studying at a Tantra school offered to give me a pussy massage…I was pretty much up to try anything.
He spent three hours being present with me…and holding spots internally and allowing me to just feel.
No pressure to get turned on. No pressure to have an orgasm.
I screamed. I cried. I felt exquisite pleasure.
And the pain…it disappeared completely and never returned.
Ever since then – I’ve been a fan.
Pussy massage can bring you incredible pleasure. It can bring you the deepest sexual healing.
If you want to learn a basic pussy massage you can try tonight, I’m sharing the 12 steps here.
Whenever Andrew offers me one, I still get a bit nervous and it ends up being the best part of my whole week.
It reconnects us in a profound way.
I truly believe this practice can change the world.
This is also called “Yoni Massage” – but I feel that even though the word yoni is a beautiful Sanskrit word – it makes the practice feel foreign.
And actually, this isn’t an ancient practice. It’s quite a modern development and mixes therapeutic release and sexual healing process that were developed in the 20th century!
Discover the exquisite pussy massage technique below.
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Transcript:
Pussy Massage 101 – For Exquisite Pleasure And Healing
All right, I’m gonna share with you one of my absolute favorite practices today, pussy massage. There are amazing things a woman can feel during a pussy massage. Everything from the release of long held traumas and negative sexual beliefs from childhood to really experiencing pleasure like she’s never known before in her life. All the way to amazing trance states of connection of bliss, of gratitude, of a divine sense of who she [00:00:30] is.
So I’m gonna walk you step by step through a basic pussy massage that will allow you to offer a very lucky woman an incredible experience this evening.
So you’re gonna start by setting the space, never underestimate the power of a few candles, some incense, some awesome music for this specifically, you wanna lie something down on the bed, a towel or a blanket that you can wash in case she ejaculates, or there might be a lot of liquid coming during the massage.
You also want to put [00:01:00] a pillow underneath her sacrum. This will elevate her pussy and allow you easier access for the massage.
So for the next step, you wanna get comfortable yourself. If you are uncomfortable, the receiver will feel it set. If you put pillows under yourself, uh, figure out a way to spread your legs and with your partner’s legs over your legs, you might even want to sit on a chair on the edge of the bed. If that can also offer maximum comfort.
The next step [00:01:30] is you’re gonna set the space like a pro. That means that this is not a 15 minute experience. There is no pressure for her to finish. You wanna give this at least an hour, too many women have been way too rushed in their sexuality. They experience pressure, tension, this feeling that they need to get turned on, that their body needs to go somewhere.
Take all of that away in your pussy massage and say, darling, the next hour is for you and in pussy massage. It is so important for you to say to her baby, you don’t have to have an orgasm. This isn’t about you experiencing anything. This isn’t about me and feeling like an awesome lover. This is about you experiencing whatever you need to experience.
So the next step is, start slow and warm her up. A pro tip is to go twice as slow as you think that you should, you can start by running your fingers through her hair. You can give her a breast massage. You can stroke her belly and her thighs, [00:02:30] whatever lets her warm up, drop into her body and fully relax under your hands.
So for the next step, you’re going to start massaging around her vulva. You can think of doing circles with your palms on her inner thighs and massaging over her groin up to her hips. And then next you’re gonna offer her two different strokes over her vulva. These are so delicious. You wanna make sure you have lots of oil or lube on your hand.
You’re gonna do a slide from her hips down across her vulva, one hand after the other, really let this be luscious. So the second stroke you can try is to take your whole Palm and to place the center of your Palm over her ch glands. And you’re gonna do really lush slow circles. Now this is an incredibly valuable stroke because her clitoris is actually a huge neural network. A lot of women have a lot of [00:03:30] erogenous zones along the entire vulva, not just the main glands of the clitoris. So you’re activating her whole vulva in this, which is very, very juicy, can be very, very electric. You’re not going to put your fingers inside of her until you’ve done this and really built up her turn on and her excitement, think like 10 minutes.
Now, the next step, if she’s ready for penetration is you can place a finger or two right at the entrance of her vagina.
And you’re going [00:04:00] to do the circles with your Palm over her clitoris. If she enjoys this stroke and you can either feel with her body, if she’s moaning and moving her hips, and she’s almost sucking your fingers in with her vagina, then she’s a yes to penetration. If not, you can ask her, is it okay for me to put my fingers inside of you? If it’s a no, then you can go back to stroking her entire body, do the massage over her vulva and celebrate her pleasure.
If it’s a yes, you can slowly start to slide your fingers [00:04:30] inside and you are going to gently bring your fingers in and out. Very slowly. Think that you’re moving like an inch in total and it’s a very slow in and out stroke. And with the other hand, you’re continuing to stroke her clitoris and her vulva in a really delicious way.
So since this is a pussy massage and you’re not necessarily just trying to get her off, you can move into a healing experience next, which is called Pussy Shasu. That means, as you’re gently [00:05:00] stroking her vulva with one hand, you’re going to press the inside of her vagina with your other finger or two fingers gently and encouraging her to feel where you’re pressing to inhale to the point of pressure and to exhale and sound.
Now the beginner’s stroke, the beginner’s technique of this is to go about the level of her GS spot. So this is about an inch inside for most women, but you can also feel for it or find it. If you don’t know how [00:05:30] to find her G spot, you can go ahead and watch this video where I explain all of it to you.
Once you’ve located her GS spot, you wanna do light pressure in a circle around the wall of the vagina, encouraging her to breathe and release, breathe, and release, breathe and release. Now she might have a healing experience, which means that she might cry. She might go into a bit of fear. She might sound and go wild. All of that is amazing.
[00:06:00] And you want to encourage her step by step to feel, to express and to sound. It might be that she becomes very orgasmic, very pleasure filled. If that’s the case, then you can move into her favorite vaginal stroke that really turns her on. And then you can have her move into orgasm if that feels like a natural flow to her. But you’re never pushing her towards orgasm or expecting her to have an orgasm.
The magic key to this whole massage is that [00:06:30] you are present with her moment to moment. You’re not pressuring her. You’re not expecting anything out of her. Women’s bodies have been used for centuries. Now with this expectation that they’re supposed to perform, they’re supposed to get turned on when they need to get turned on. They’re supposed to be orgasmic on cue and this pussy massage unravels that expectation.
And the way that you unravel that expectation is by staying fully present with her in the moment, no matter what she experiences, whether [00:07:00] she’s totally shut down, whether she’s feeling bitchy and prissy towards you, whether she’s crying, whether she’s having the mother of all orgasmic experiences, you are committed to being present with her moment to moment to moment.
Afterwards, you can either cuddle her or let her lie in silence, whatever her preference is and then you can let her integrate. That means she can share with you what she experienced. The two of you can either end there, or if she’s feeling really turned on, you could move into love [00:07:30] making, but you wanna be careful not to subtly do it so you can move into love making. You want it (the pussy massage) to be its own main event and then whatever happens afterwards is completely organic.