Have you ever wondered why missionary, one of the sexiest most intimate sex positions there is…
Is called MISSIONARY?!
Well, in today’s episode, you’ll find out.
Plus you’ll learn 5 fantastic ways to mix up this classic position for even more pleasure.
Missionary is a favorite for a reason – you get to kiss, have eye contact, have lots of skin-to-skin contact, and it feels amazing.
So if you want to make this position even better, check out the episode below!
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Transcript:
5 Ways To Mix Up Missionary
So the term missionary position was coined by Alfred Kinsey, allegedly taking from the work of Bronislaw Malinowski and his work in the 1920s with South Pacific indigenous people who apparently coined the name missionary position to describe the position that the missionaries approved of and not the local variations.
So whether that’s true or not, I don’t know, we researched it. We looked into it and it used to be known as the English American position.
So yes, folks, the English Americans have been doing it real nice instead of nasty forever and ever now.
So let’s say that we stop letting sex negative people and dudes from the 1920s, ’30s, ’40s, ’50s, and ’60s name sex positions. Because as a recovering Catholic, it’s kind of weird to do it in a missionary position, especially when missionary position is actually one of the most intimate positions.
And instead of emphasizing the fact that the man is on top or the person with a dildo, as you like it, it should really emphasize the depth of intimacy, the option for full connection.
And so we asked you on Instagram to give us some new names for missionary position.
And so we’re going to ask you to go ahead and vote now on your favorite new name for missionary position, so that we can have a whole new way to identify this sexual experience that doesn’t make us think about Christian proselytizing in South Pacific indigenous tribes which breaks my heart. But instead makes us understand and connect with the heart of the position, which is really soulful and deep and intimate.
So the first option that we came up with is the intimate OG. The soul gaze is another option. Heart to heart, the classic, and of course, sexy McSex space. So go ahead and vote. And we will announce the winner both here on the YouTube channel and on Instagram so we can rename this classic position.
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Okay. So how do you mix up missionary?
The first is to eye gaze, right? Instead of having your eyes closed, look deep into your partner’s eyes. And what I like to do is actually take the pleasure from my pussy up into my heart.
So if you and your partner do this together, what it does is it produces a heart orgasm and it actually transforms and activates the nature of this position, which is that all of your chakras are aligned, which creates a heart explosion.
So it’s possible when you emphasize moving sexual pleasure into your heart in this position that you not only have a heart orgasm, but you can feel cosmically more deeply in love with your partner.
Number two is to focus on various erogenous zones. So it can be easy to get lost in the habitual thrusting of this position.
So when you take the time to stroke your partner’s neck, to stroke or toss your partner’s hair, to actually take a moment to nibble on their ear, to stroke their breasts while in this position, or to stroke your own breast while in this position.
So it’s really delicious to think of how can I make this even more centrally activating and erogenously connected.
Number three is slow way down. So sometimes the thrusting partner in this position can get carried away and go really, really hard and fast and forget that actually orgasmic activation happens for women and people with pussies much more deeply when the thrusting is slow and steady, especially in the beginning of intercourse.
So really think, go four times as slow as you normally would, or invite your partner to go four times as slow as they normally would and see what happens. It can really deepen the deliciousness of this position and the orgasmic capacity.
Number four is to squeeze your legs together or try and change the positioning of your legs. So this can open and activate your entire pelvic region and produce vastly different sensations. So when you move your legs, you can activate different parts of your vagina during the thrusting and some of which will feel more exquisite than others.
Number five is to use props. So one of the easiest ways is to place a pillow underneath your pelvis, which lifts up your pelvis into a different position and can activate more of the G-spot during thrusting and can create deeper, more delicious sensations.
It could also make it more enjoyable sometimes to pull your knees and your legs up, which can also create more intimacy over time.
So I’d love for you to share in the comments down below, what do you like to add to this sex position that makes it more alive, more orgasmic or more intimate in your experience?
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