The pleasure of deep-throating absolutely does NOT have to come at the expense of the giver’s comfort.
In fact, deep-throating can be an intimate and ecstatic act of surrender.
It can even activate the throat chakra, enhancing your personal power and ability to speak your truth.
In this week’s video, I not only give you pro-tips for making deep-throating more pleasurable for the giver, but I also explain how you can reclaim this sexual act from the patriarchy and reap the benefits of stronger connection and energy activation through blow jobs.
Discover my best deep-throating tips and Tantric wisdom on the subject in the video below.
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Deep-Throating Secrets For Epic Blow Jobs
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So after this episode you and her will be able to deep throat that absolutely gigantic cucumber like the champions that you are.
Lie back, follow my instructions, and enjoy the fucking ride.
So today we are going to talk about the art of deep-throating, and I almost probably shouldn’t be making you this video because I just gag. I gag, I throw up in my own mouth. I would not consider myself to be a deep-throating champion. However, I have done a really intimate practice with Andrew that I feel takes deep-throating from being some sort of power dominance thing, where you’re really hurting your body and it feels terrible and you’re doing it all for him, into this act of beautiful surrender.
So whether deep-throating is the turn on to you because it feels like you’re in this act of surrender, even submission, that’s really, really hot, or if it’s a really beautiful way to get in touch with your throat and even activate the throat energies, then this video will be of support to you to be able to create that as part of your sexual practice.
So what I personally love about deep-throating is it is a profound level of intimacy, and as usual I feel like patriarchy has taken sexual acts that actually are profoundly intimate, I’d put anal sex in that category, I’d put sex in general in that category, I’d put oral sex in that category, basically anything sexual is intimate, but especially the deeply intimate ones, they get twisted into this power play. For a woman, let’s say, to enjoy it in a heterosexual dynamic, she must be being forced into it, or it must be the male desire, and that’s not true at all.
First of all, because women in heterosexual relationships can absolutely love things like deep-throating, anal sex, and blow jobs, and also in lesbian sex it can be super hot to deep throat a dildo and to engage in activities that have this deep level of bodily surrender as part of them.
So when you want to start getting better at deep-throating I’m a big, big, big supporter of it actually being a conversation that you have with your partner, and something that you learn with them.
So if you want to deep-throat, one of the major keys is to learn to relax deeper than your gag reflex. So as soon as a penis or a dildo hits the back of your throat, especially if it’s at an angle where it’s hitting the very back of your throat, almost straight through your mouth into the back, it will trigger a gag reflex.
If you angle the penis or dildo farther down your throat so it’s actually moving down your throat you can relax, open your throat, and this act of surrender through the throat has profound energetic implications.
I was taught that in the tantric tradition this sexual act could powerfully open Vishuddha chakra, so your throat chakra could actually experience a deep, energetic awakening and activation through deep-throating, but it’s really the act of surrender that triggers the energy activation.
Vishuddha is the heart of voice, of genius, and of having power in the world, so the other thing is I feel like deep-throating has been this misunderstood pornographic activity, whereas actually when you engage with it as an act of surrender, and an act of opening up to really take a cock or dildo deep into your mouth and into your throat, it can produce a profoundly empowering, energetic activation in your own body. So reclaiming this act for it being sexy, it being intimate, and it being a profound act of surrender, is super important.
Now can you use a vegetable to train? Absolutely. You can also use one of your clean sex toys, or dildos. A really big key is breathing through your nose and not your throat. Obviously if you’re trying to breathe through your mouth while you’ve got a giant object in it, you’re going to feel like you’re dying, and unless that’s your kink, it’s not very sexy. So what you want to do is learn to inhale and exhale through the nose so that your body can relax and you know that you’ve got as much oxygen as you need.
The other thing that you want to learn to do is relax, open your jaw. So this is also super therapeutic because we tend to have these clenched tight jaws, so really opening your mouth, relaxing, opening your jaw, and making this whole part of your body relaxed and open, it’s deeply satisfying and profoundly relaxing. I’m going to use the word relaxing again.
The other thing that you really want to manage is minimizing teeth. Nobody likes sharp teeth on a penis, that is one advantage of having a strap on is you could go a little bit teethy without injuring anyone, but when you are dealing with a living penis you really want to make sure that you’re minimizing any teeth on penis because that is a giant, giant, giant fear for most men.
So the easiest position to try this in is where your mouth and throat are aligned. So being on all fours with the person’s penis or dildo right in front of you can be a great position to try and really maximizes the best angle. It also gives you the ability to really choose your position and move yourself around a lot and find what works for you.
The biggest key to this is telling your partner to let you explore first, because you want to learn how your body can open up into this position and how you can learn to surrender through the gag reflex. Then you can mix in whatever is a turn on for both of you.
So maybe it is a turn on for your partner to be penetrating your mouth and throat. Maybe it’s a turn on for your partner to be holding your hair. Maybe it’s a turn on for both of you to be choking, if that’s really what turns you on. But what I would highly encourage you to do is to make a safe space for you to explore this experience several times until you feel really good about it, and you start to feel turned on in the position, and then you can go ahead and add anything else on top of it.
I think what happens with deep-throating a lot of the time is if you don’t feel comfortable and turned on, your body will start going into a tight position, or a contracted position, including your throat, and it gets worse and worse, and you’re not actually enjoying it, and your throat is constricting, which is going to make the gag reflex even more intense.
So the idea is to make this a sexy experience for both of you, so you really want to be turned on in the process so that you enjoy doing it, and then it’s going to feel empowering no matter what kind of scene you’re playing out.
So in the Tantric and Taoist traditions, it’s often the combination of yin and yang that produces a very powerful awakening. So once you’ve surrendered open and you have the penis or dildo inside of your throat, one thing that you can do is moan or hum with a focus on your throat chakra right at the pit of your throat, and this will enhance the energy activating properties, and because you’re mixing the yin and surrender of your throat with the yang of the dildo or the penis, what you’re going to do is you’re going to create a third force through the moaning and the humming that can activate your throat chakra, one of the most powerful activations if you want to have the kind of voice that can change the world.
So remember that deep-throating can be a profound reclamation of your spiritual and energetic power in addition to being a beautiful thing that you and your partner can collaborate on in ways where you can find a deeper and deeper surrender inside of your body. I have found that that level of surrender is often a portal to some of our most profound sexual experiences.
So if you’re excited to combine this with amazing blowjob tips to make it a complete experience, then you can go ahead and find my blowjob guide down below. It’s totally free, you can click the link, enter your email address, and you can have access to it right away, it’ll allow you to design a gorgeous experience for whoever you intend to pleasure.
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