7 ways to re-ignite passion in a low sex relationship

In 2017 I experienced the excruciating shame of not being able to remember the last time that Andrew and I had had sex.

There are literally not enough “red-faced” emojis in the world to convey the deep, deep shame that I felt in that realization.

Now, I want to give you a bunch of excuses. I was taking care of my dad in hospice. I was working 60 hours a week because my business was exploding.

Andrew and I were going through a hard time together personally and professionally and we were exhausted.

And all that’s true…but what’s even truer is that Andrew and I are a normal couple.

We’ve been together five years.

We value our sexuality, we love each other deeply, we practice tantra…and you know what?

Like any long-term couple, the amount of sex we have and the attraction we feel for each other goes up and down.

When we have less sex, I get to feel all the shame and doubt normal people feel…

Maybe this is the end!!! Maybe we’ve lost our attraction forever.

Ug, how can it feel this hard…remember when we first met and it was so easy?!?

I bet all of my other friends in amazing relationships are having way more sex than us. I bet they’re having it right now. I bet it’s freaking epic.

And I also have the special benefit of professional shame…

This is your CAREER. You know all of the tools in the WORLD. If you can’t do it, then WHO CAN?

If you don’t have hot sex every day, you are a FRAUD!!!

OOOOOhhhhhhhh….the mind.

So, while I’m here to tell you that every couple goes through low sex periods and it’s totally normal and there is nothing to be ashamed about…

I also want to share with you that there are things you can do about it.

Because every time Andrew and I have gone down a rabbit hole of losing our sexual connection and magic…

We have come out on the other side..and the cool thing is…even stronger than ever.

Andrew is my soulmate and life partner.

And when we move through a period of low sex, we almost always have to work through fears of intimacy, sexual blockages and conditioning and many, many other things.

Low sex isn’t some horrible nightmare…it’s actually an invitation to work deeply on our relationship.

We’ve done it every time…it’s not always fun, but it’s always, always worth it.

And we come out on the other end even more sexually connected and vibrant than ever.

I can’t, as a sexuality teacher, promise you that a long-term relationship is a walk in the park and that the tools I will share with you will magically fix everything.

What I can tell you is that every time I’ve used tantra and my own holistic sex tools to address our sexuality…

We grow deeper and more connected.

There is something hot and amazing about a new, sparkly mysterious person.

But let me tell you…there is absolutely nothing like having incredible, soul-baring, life-changing sex with the person you love more than anything in the world.

I find it’s a challenge, but when you, as a couple, rise to meet the challenge…the rewards are magnificently worth it.

I’m here to show you what’s worked for us and what I believe every couple should know to keep their sex life and attraction alive over the years.