My boyfriend’s fear about his sexual desires

This is Layla’s boyfriend Andrew here…

I want to tell you something that I’m nervous to share publicly.

When I see a beautiful woman walking down the street…

I will often feel a raw sexual desire for her.

I don’t act on this or do anything to let the woman know what I’m thinking

but maybe I look for a little too long…

or quickly glance down at her breasts…

Then I think…can she see the desire in my eyes…

is it disrespectful for me to be thinking that way?

And I feel bad.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot more since the #metoo movement.

I haven’t done any of the things that men like Weinstein have been accused of…

but I’ve certainly imagined doing some of them.

Is that the same thing?!

Layla and I were talking about the #metoo movement last week,

And while we’re happy that we’re finally seeing so much of the unhealthy and twisted aspects of many men’s sexuality in society being uncovered…

It brought up the question…

What IS a healthy way for men to interact with women around their desires?

And how can men express their raw sexuality…in authentic but healthy ways.

Most men are not brought up with super healthy messages around sex…

We’re not taught how to express our sexual desires freely and safely as children…

so it comes out in unhealthy and repressed ways for many men later on in life.

And with the #metoo movement now bringing to light the all the repressed sexuality out there…

It’s also put uncertainty into the minds of many good men…

Men who are now even unsure when it’s ok to flirt with women.

Layla and I thought this uncertainty being created around men’s sexual desires…

was something so important that we wanted to explore it more.

So we grabbed a camera and made a video for you to start a conversation around…

How to educate men to protect, empower and cherish women without shaming them for their natural desires?

How can men still have a healthy, raw and free sexuality…

while also staying in integrity and treating women with respect and compassion?

Watch the video below

and together we can make a positive impact on men’s sexual empowerment.

If you’re inspired to share this video we can move the conversation forward in the world.

And let us know in the comments below, what do you think would support a healthy relationship to sex for men?