I didn’t take it personally when so many of you wrote in the last time I released a video that didn’t feature me at all (BUT featured three conscious men instead) saying…
It was “your absolute favorite ever” and “the best video ever posted to YouTube!”
Instead, I brought back another three men to share with you how sacred sex changed their lives in today’s video below.
Why?
Because a lot of guys are super resistant to learning about sacred sex.
I talk to them all the time and they share, “If it’s not broken, why fix it?”
And also because so many men are programmed to believe that they have to perform in bed, they have to give their lover like 100 orgasms and last just the right amount of time and have a rock-hard erection forever…
And with all that pressure already happening…
Who wants to add the additional pressure of having to make it sacred too???
Also, when I say “sacred sex,” I think a lot of guys imagine the cheesiest, lamest Hollywood romantic sex scene with a lot of long, slow looks, rose petals, and tears…
But, now, also featuring HARD WORK, more talking, and lasting EVEN LONGER.
So, suffice to say a lot of guys are like, “Sacred sex? No thanks.”
But what we wanted to tell you today is that whatever you call it – Sacred Sex, Conscious Sex, Woke Sex, Tantra…
It’s actually the most incredible thing a human can experience.
It’s not cheesy, it’s not hard work, it’s not more pressure….
It’s like taking 10 MDMA pills and feeling more ecstasy, connection, pleasure, and power than you could ever imagine…
With no hangover.
Sacred sex is whatever you make of it, but think of it like the sex you’re having now except 100 times better in technicolor.
Watch how sacred sex changed the lives of these 3 men below.
Here’s to more soul-shakingly connected, Tantric, and sacred sex for all!
Let me know in the comments below: how has sacred sex changed your life?
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Transcript:
3 men share why they love sacred sex
So today we’re gonna talk about conscious or sacred sexuality and how it’s really affected our lives and what we love about it.
The word sacred, sacred sex, or sacred something people might think of like something religious or it has to be like certain rituals or could feel
Certain…
Or boring.
See, for me, I, I’m not scared of the word sacred to me. It just means that I actually am present. And so I would use the word conscious sex so that you’re actually aware of what it is that you’re doing.
Because from my perspective, when we have sex or make love or whatever you wanna call it with a partner, there is an energetic exchange and that energetic exchange could be just pleasure focused and you’re just getting off, or it could be something much more than that.
It could be a moment of deep intimacy and connection where you explore the realms of the unseen, even, because from my perspective, the energy that merges between a man and a woman, you know, that energy is capable of creating life.
So talk about some sacred or connected sex in, in your relationship and how it’s affected your relationship or, or what it, what it really means to you.
For me, the biggest thing has been about getting vulnerable, being able to bring all of myself, all of my power and all of my weakness, all of my insecurity and all of my confidence and you know, all the opposites to the table. And that is like the magic ingredient to create epic, connected sex. So I think being in a partnership with a person who is willing to go there, when you feel safe enough to be fully expressed, is the magic sauce.
Yeah, it definitely is. I also think that when you enter a partnership, that journey starts right. You both come with your own background, your own tools, your own skills, your own experiences. And then you put, bring all those ingredients together and you create the magic of what that sexual experience is. And I think that one of the values of being in a longer term partnership is the fact that you can dive deeper and that you can continue to explore.
I used to have this idea about the destination. You get to the climax, the orgasm, that’s the destination, it’s the goal. You go there as fast as you can. And, and then boom, you’re there. And it’s amazing. But what if you take that destination out suddenly you are called to be really present and you, there is no destination. So every moment in that experience becomes the destination.
To me, connected sex, tantric sex, sacred sex, whatever you wanna call it is about learning, learning about yourself, learning about your relationship and really using it as, as a tool for growth, rather than just that goal of orgasm and pleasure.
That’s what I’ve really seen in my relationship with Layla as well. The tantric sex that we have together, it strengthens our relationship so much because it’s not about orgasm. It’s not about just getting off. Sometimes it’s fear, sadness, crying, but what it does is it just connects us and strengthens us. And we learn so much about ourselves and we evolve and we grow through that. So, and, and we have an awesome time as well. So
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Where a lot of relationships really fall short and break up is because people get in the rut of doing the same thing over and over again. And, there’s no growth in it. There’s really no one’s teaching us that it can be the things that we’re talking about.
It’s just, you know, if, whether you watch porn or whether you’re, you’re just doing it, this isn’t an area where people aren’t, they’re not going to school for this, or they’re not really necessarily reading.
No education.
Exactly. There’s no education there’s and you know, you have to really look for it. You have to want to grow. And then how do you bring it up to your partner? What does it mean to them? Are they gonna think that you’re not satisfied, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
And because it’s so taboo to talk about, most people don’t talk about it and then you grow apart. You’re not having sex. And then the grass is a whole lot greener, wherever else you look and your partnership falls apart.
So it’s so important again, to utilize the tools of, of, of communication to talk about these things and do these fun challenges together and get excited about things. And Layla is so brilliant at, uh, you know, watching her videos of getting people excited and giving ideas and, and then that’s practical tools.
Yeah, and that ‘s fun. It’s fun to be in discovery versus being in the knowing or needing, needing to look a certain way, like play.
So what are some things that you’ve done in, in your relationship that have really elevated you and your sexual pleasure and your relationship?
I mean, obviously I was always a really, really good lover. Like I’ve been getting obviously on a scale of like one to 10, I’ve been getting like a hundred, basically all my life. I think for me, the biggest thing has been vulnerability.
Like I was saying before, that I actually allow my partner to, to see me. And not only in love making, but also when I’m, you know, doing breath work or when I we’re just, uh, eye gazing or breathing or whatever the tantra is, you know, all these practices are across the board, how to let go of this small idea of who you are and actually open up to a larger you and come together with your partner.
Yeah. Ya-ell always uses the word intimacy. She expresses into me. You see? So that’s really what it is for me. It’s that level of intimacy where you actually allow each other to see into each other’s soul. I have been able to reach states with Ya-el that, that I, I, I, that, that just blows my mind.
Like I actually have been able with Ya-el to reach that state times a thousand for prolonged periods of time, simply by the connection and the intimacy really that we create. Yes. And by seeing each other and by feeling seen, and, and the, the love making changes every single time, because it’s a reflection of where you are, what you need in that moment where you need to be supported.
I’ve come to a point where I cannot even go into that space if I don’t feel 100% connected like that. And this is something that I would hear women say in the past, like, no, I can’t have sex with a man, unless I feel a connection. I’d be like, what are you talking about? But now I get it.
Yeah. Once you experience that intimacy and vulnerability and the power that brings to your relationship and, and the feeling you get, like you were saying that 10 seconds of orgasm previously means nothing. When you’ve got that deep connected intimacy.
It’s knowledge that we have had in the past. And that that was lost, you know, I was repressed and it’s just like, it’s coming back, but it’s so natural once you’re in that practice and you get to let go of your old story of this is the way you do it. Here’s only missionary and only, you know, on, on a Friday or whatever your story is around it <laugh> or only, you know, good story.
What it did for me, it set me free. There were certain parts that I wasn’t expressing, certain things that I wasn’t talking about. Certain things that I was afraid to, to, to bring to the space. And when you are met with, um, by a partner that holds space for that, and that shares excitement around that and, and allows for a space in which we can explore and connect and experience an intimacy that is like deep and, and beautiful and opening.
It is the freedom that is experienced in this container that creates more trust. That then leads to more freedom. I have learned that we can move each other’s energy and, and bring each other to the space of orgasm without touch. Even, it’s just by pure presence and intimacy. I think that, that, that’s the, for me all, I need to have endless possibilities play out that’ll from my perspective will never get boring.
Yeah. I feel the same way about this. There’s no way you can get bored with Tantric sex or connected sex. And in my relationship, I’ve learned so much about myself, about my own body, about, um, you know, my energy, like where it’s alive and where it’s stuck.
And everything’s gone from just being sort of like unconscious sexuality, which is just about pleasure to an exploration of my body and my limitations and my capabilities to hold my partner and see my partner and the vulnerability of how my partner can see me and hold me.
And it’s just, it’s opened up a whole new world for us and for me and something that, you know, I feel like I’m just constantly learning and growing and learning and growing, and that’s, that’s not gonna change.
Yeah. And that’s what keeps it interesting. Yeah. It’s like, because we, like you said, if it’s just like Friday evening missionary, it gets boring. And I think boredom is actually one of the big reasons why people go and look for things outside.
Totally. And one of the things I really enjoyed learning from you guys was, give your lovemaking a purpose, make it a ceremony, you know, devoted to something. It’s interesting adding in like these different elements of ritual, just something as simple as that.
Yeah. And all of a sudden it becomes about something else. It’s not just about getting off necessarily, but when you do get off, it’s devoted and dedicated to something other than you’re just getting off and it changes things. And they’re so powerful.
Awesome. Well, thank you so much guys, for coming in and, and sharing so vulnerably about your relationships today. And if you wanna check out their work, I’ve pasted some links below, so you can really check out their men’s work and couple’s work as well.
And if you want some more awesome content for sacred and spiritual sexuality, you can check out our Epic Lovers guide for couples, which there’s a link below for as well. So thank you guys. Yeah.
You’re welcome. Thank you for having us.
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